my philosophy

Why This Work Matters Now

We're living through a particular moment in history where powerful forces are actively seeking to restrict and destroy our freedoms, our joys, our loves, our very lives. These forces aren't new—they've been around for eons—but right now we're seeing a resurgence where they're bolder, more blatant, less willing to disguise their horrific plans.

What's critical to understand is that these are the same forces that have historically dictated and fostered a society-wide disconnection from our bodies, from our pleasures, and from one another. This isn't accidental. When we're disconnected in those areas, we're isolated. When we're isolated, we're easier targets—easier to gaslight, easier to vanquish. But even more importantly, when we're disconnected and isolated, we're separated from Eros, which is the renewable and sustainable fuel we need to create the world of kindness and justice we want to live in.

I believe that our bodies hold the wisdom we need to navigate this upheaval. Through embodied practices, we can ground ourselves, process trauma, and reconnect to our innate capacity for joy, pleasure, creativity, and connection. Erotic embodiment isn't just about sex—it's about reclaiming the body as a source of power, vitality, and freedom. It's a practice of resistance, liberation, and transformation.

Understanding the Erotic

When I use the word "erotic," I'm not using it as shorthand for "sexual." I'm using it in Audre Lorde's sense: the deepest life force, a force which moves us toward living in a fundamental way.

Here's how I distinguish between the sensual, the sexual, and the erotic:

Sensual — stimulation of or pleasing to any of the senses.

Sexual — stimulation of or pleasing to the erogenous zones and/or genitalia with one or more of the following as a goal: communication, connection, orgasm.

Erotic — stimulation of or pleasing to the Soul.

The sensual and the sexual are the quickest, most embodied routes to the Soul.

For those who experience sexual attraction, the erotic may absolutely include sex—but it doesn't have to. The erotic is about being alive in your body, connected to your deepest knowing, accessing the life force that generates creativity, desire, connection, and power.

Erotic embodiment involves a deep, conscious awareness and presence within the body, where you tune into the sensations, emotions, and desires that arise from within, allowing your body's innate wisdom to guide expressions of pleasure, sensuality, and intimacy. Beyond narrow, sexualized definitions, erotic embodiment is about reclaiming the body from societal forces that seek to control, shame, or disconnect us from our inherent power.

By embracing our erotic energy as a fundamental life force, we challenge systems of oppression that have historically sought to suppress and regulate bodies, particularly those of marginalized communities. When we practice erotic embodiment, we reject narratives of control and embrace our bodies as sites of joy, liberation, and resistance. By inhabiting our bodies more fully and authentically, we disrupt patterns of domination and colonization and move toward a more holistic, liberated way of being that honors all bodies as sacred and powerful.

How Trauma and Oppression Impact the Body

Trauma and oppression can actively dull your connection to Eros. Shame seeps in, fear clouds your choices, desire gets muted, and your body feels disconnected. When we are disconnected in these areas, we're isolated. And when we're isolated, we're separated from Eros—the fuel we need to create the world we deserve.

Our individual traumas, the traumas we've endured living in bodies marginalized by the State—these can make it difficult to be fully present in the body, difficult to experience pleasure, difficult to understand our bodies as sacred manifestations of the divine.

If you have these obstacles, it doesn't mean you're broken. It doesn't mean you're doomed to an unhappy life. It definitely doesn't mean you're stuck in that place forever. What it means is working with the body to eliminate those obstacles or reduce their power over you.

How I Work

Maybe it's difficult being in your body because being in your body hasn't always been a safe place to be—or not being in your body has saved your life or your sanity at least once. In which case, you need to work with the body to help it expand its sense of safety, to let it know that it's not in the same circumstances and that those defenses aren't necessary now.

Maybe it's difficult to feel pleasure because you've never had the opportunity to learn what feels good to you, or because you believed the lie you were told that you're undeserving of pleasure. In which case, you need to quiet the voice that lies to you so you can hear the voice of the body, hear the wisdom the body wants to share with you, and then work with the body to discover what feels good to it.

Maybe it's been hard to understand your body as sacred and special because you believed the lie you were told that—because of who you are or how you look or what capabilities or disabilities your body has or who you love or how you love or what you think or how you think—your body is the very opposite of sacred and special, and that you're unworthy of attention from the divine. Which again means you have to quiet the voice that lies to you so you can hear the voice of the divine speaking to you through your body.

Through erotic breathwork, somatic storytelling, and sacred ritual, I guide you to restore presence, reclaim pleasure, and deepen your connection to spirituality—so your Eros can fully carry you, ignite you, and take root in the space that is yours to inhabit.

As you start to address these challenges, you gain more and more access to your authentic desire, to your authentic renewable fuel, allowing you to fully and fiercely embrace the erotic life that is your divine birthright.

Individual and Collective Liberation

Here's what's non-negotiable: we cannot build collective liberation while we're disconnected from our bodies, our pleasure, our erotic aliveness. The personal isn't just political—it's foundational. When we're numb, dissociated, running on empty, we can't sustain the fight. We burn out. We collapse. We give up.

But when we reconnect to our erotic energy—when we reclaim our bodies as sites of power and resistance—we access the renewable fuel we need to stay in the struggle for the long haul. Not just survive, but thrive. Not just resist, but create. Not just endure, but transform.

Our individual erotic liberation is inseparable from our collective liberation. When you shed the damaging, dehumanizing messages about pleasure that you've been force-fed your entire life, when you embrace your connection to Eros and to one another, you don't just heal yourself—you become a threat to every system that relies on your disconnection to maintain control.

The body of self is connected to the bodies of others, is connected to the body of community, is connected to the body of the planet. Our liberation begins in the body. All of our liberations begin in the body.

An authentic relationship with your body—one that embraces pleasure, presence, and Spirit—is your Divine birthright. Reclaiming it is an act of insurgency. And my work in this world is to help you reclaim it, so we can build the world we deserve together.