FAQ

Breath is an anchor, a vehicle, a springboard. Breath is the glue that keeps us in our bodies & connects us deeply to those around us. Erotic Breathwork is a way of breathing that allows you to access your erotic energy, and harness it for transformative fuel. It is a series of "conscious breathing techniques": intentional ways of inhaling/exhaling in order to quiet the mind & let the body's wisdom come through.

Erotic Breathwork is not a substitute for diagnosis and/or treatment by a licensed health professional. While breathwork is an excellent way to manage some chronic pain issues, it can exacerbate some lung or heart issues. And although breathwork is an excellent way to manage stress, depression, anxiety, fear, and grief, it can also complicate some mental health issues. A more complete list of contraindications can be found on the registration signup page.

While each of the sessions are slightly different, they all begin & end the same way. We open with 3 shared breaths, a Land Acknowledgment, an Ancestor Invocation, and a Blessing. We end with optional sharing, the "one word poem", and 3 shared breaths.

In between the opening & the closing, we link together 3 breathing tecnniques, have “floaty time” (silent time for you to experience whatever it is you’re going to experience), and then time for optional sharing.

My sessions are for people who want to deepen their relationship with their body, their pleasure, and The Divine. Most of my sessions are QTIBIPOC-centered, rather than QTIBIPOC-exclusive. This means that whiteness, cis-ness (agreeing with the gender designation you were given at birth), & heterosexuality are not “the default human”, and that those needs will not be catered to at the expense of people historically multiply-marginalized by The State. The needs, desires, safety, & blessed humanity of Queer/SGL Black, Indigenous, & other People of color are the focus & the foundation of these sessions. If you are white and/or straight & can roll with not being centered and possibly not being in the majority of attendees, you are more than welcome.

You are not welcome at my sessions if you believe in a hierarchical value system for human bodies’ worth—that some bodies are inherently more valuable than other bodies.

You are not welcome in my sessions if you are a "T.R.A.S.H" person (Transphobic, Racist, Ableist, Sexist, or Homophobic).

You are not welcome in my sessions if you are anti-sexworker or believe that it is always trafficking and/or self-degrading.

You are not welcome in my sessions if you are fatphobic or ageist.

You are not welcome at my sessions if you are looking for an “experience” rather than “transformation”.

The sessions will be held on Zoom. If you don’t already have it, you can download it here. You’ll want the best sound possible, This usually means headphones/earbuds & wired internet. WiFi & a speaker can work just fine depending on the strength of your connection and the quality of your speaker.

You want to be somewhere comfortable without a lot of bright light. You should have on non-restrictive clothing (if you’d like to be nude—a great option!—you can do so after the break), a blanket and/or sheet and/or pillows, some water, something to write/take notes with/on/in (or art supplies), whatever cushions you need to be comfortable, and possibly some tissues.

With the exception of the Moon Rituals (which are limited to 15), there is no limit to how many people may join a session. The interactions between attendees is kept to a minimum, you are on your own intimate journey, in your own private bubble. But all of us together create a CyberCircle of Healing that we simultaneously contribute to & withdraw from during the session. Community is created in many ways and just being together, feeling all of your emotions, and sharing breath is one way.

Instead of a sliding scale I have 3 different payment tiers. All tiers give access to the same information/attention at the events. There is nothing you have to prove to me about your financial situation, I don't ask for your tax returns or pay stubs. I simply ask that you do some honest reflection about your current financial reality from a mindset of abundance rather than one of scarcity & then choose the tier meets that reality.  The tiers are named as they are to reflect the amount of “green” you have access to. The Meadow Tier is my “market rate”; Garden Tier is for those for whom market rate would be a hardship; and Savanna Tier is for those with abundant discretionary income.

The ticketing app that I use charges a fee (pretty much all online ticketing apps do). For the Meadow & Savanna Tiers, the fees are included in the rates listed. For the Garden Tier, I absorb the fee.

If you have wealth, I ask you to strongly consider paying at the Savanna tier to support this work & the community of folx who desire it. Your payment at this tier allows me to continue to sustainably offer low cost or free events.

How do I know which Tier I should choose?

Tier selection is about your actual economic capacity, not just your salary number. Here's guidance for choosing:

Choose Savanna Tier

if more than one of the following is true for you:

• You have a large discretionary budget.

• You own your own home or rent a high-end property.

• You own more than one home.

• You have investments, retirement accounts, or inherited money.

• You are unemployed or underemployed by choice.

• You travel frequently for recreation.

• You have access to family money and resources in times of need.

• You have a relatively high degree of earning power due to level of education (or gender and racial privilege, class background, etc.) even if you are not currently exercising your earning power.

• You want to financially support making this work financially accessible for others.

Choose Meadow Tier

if you can comfortably invest in your own personal growth without negative financial consequences, even if you have to make some sacrifices here & there (sacrifice is different from hardship).

Choose Garden Tier

if more than one of the following is true for you:

• You are on a limited or stretched budget.

• You have no savings.

• You have dependents or significant debt that sometimes prevents you making ends meet.

• You receive public assistance.

• You are unemployed or underemployed.

• You have significant medical or educational debt

• You have medical expenses not covered by insurance

• You are eligible for public assistance

• You have immigration-related expenses

• You are an elder with limited financial support

• You are an unpaid community organizer

• You are a returning citizen who has been denied work due to incarceration history

• You are the sole income earner supporting your household

• You work in fields systematically undervalued by capitalism (care work, education, arts, community organizing)

These are simply guides to what I feel is an ethical way of making my work as financially accessible as possible. Pay what feels right given your situation.

If you have wealth, I ask you to consider paying at the Savanna tier to support this work & the community of folx who desire it. Your payment at this tier allows me to continue to offer low cost or free events.

Examples adapted from Little Red Botanicals

There is a limit of 25 people per course.

Barring medical emergencies, unless otherwise stated, there are no refunds given for Cybercourses. They are designed for folks who are ready to make a serious transformation in their lives, and the financial commitment is an important component of sticking with yourself. And really, the courses are worth a lot more than what I’m charging, and it's a big pain in the butt to deal with refunds. That said, if you go all of the way through any serial course, come to all of the calls and complete all of the assignments and you end up not feeling like you got absolutely no value out of it, let me know & we’ll work something out.

For Coaching packages, the refund policy is outlined in the contract.

You don't actually have to decide between them. Many of my individual clients also come to Community Sessions or Moon Rituals. And if you are doing Individual Coaching your entry to any of the Community Sessions or Moon Rituals is included (provided you fall within the appropriate demographics). The Community Sessions don't require any ongoing commitment; you can attend once a month, once a quarter, once a year, whenever is convenient (however the more regularly you come, the more you'll get out of them).

Howevery if you want to know which one you should go to first, I always suggest starting with one of the monthly Community Sessions. If it feels too general to address your specific needs, then consider Individual Coaching, They always begin with a free 45 minute session & we can go over your needs in more detail & see what makes the most sense for your situation.

No, I do not take insurance.

I want my work to be as accessible as possible in as sustainable a manner as possible, but I do not offer standard discounts. If the cost alone would prevent you from accessing my work, let's chat about ways to make it doable for both of us. I offer payment plans, limited bartering, some worktrade, scholarships, PWYC, and 1-3 pro-bono Individual Coaching packages a year.  

All clients who want to engage in the work of transforming their erotic & sexual lives are welcome. Regardless of ability, gender, spiritual tradition, sexual orientation or preference, sexuality, or relationship orientation or preference.

I do not offer sessions to those who are looking for “fantasy experiences” rather than the work of actual transformation. I will not work with T.R.A.S.H. people (transphobic, racist, ableist, sexist, or homophobic).

While I believe that sexwork is work & is a legitimate occupation, I do not offer sexwork services. I will not be nude with you, ever. I’m not being coy, I’m not trying to get around censors, I just truly, really, actually do not offer those types of services.

If you’re looking for mutual nudity & mutual masturbation, please look elsewhere.

However if you are a straight man wanting to do the work to transform your erotic, spirtual, and/or sex life within a co-created boundaried container, I welcome you.

I’m sorry that this note is necessary, but every single straight man who has contacted me has behaved extremely inappropriately somewhere along the line.

White Supremacy & Heteronormativity are toxic societal ills that poison us all. However those who are "racialized" or othered due to gender are affected in ways not shared by those in the dominant culture. Having space outside of the dominant culture where we can just be without being subject to the dominant gaze or sterotyped expectations is the first step in being able to release some of our energetic armor. If you are an anti-racist or queer accomplice (accomplices are needed more than allies), the best way to support justice in this context would be to spread the word and/or financially support this work. Click here to find out how to do so.

My sessions for groups & organizations are virtual. I have a great deal of experience in virtual facilitation, having started doing so years before Covid-19 pandemic forced events online.

If your group desires an in-person event, we can negotiate travel & lodging fees.