Pleasure As Praxis

If you're single or non-traditionally partnered, the romantic-industrial complex wants you to feel incomplete or wrong. Buy the flowers, book the restaurant, perform the partnership, prove you're worthy of love. Hallmark and every jewelry store in America need you convinced that your value gets measured in couple selfies and relationship milestones. This is by design to keep you isolated and easier to control.

The nuclear family model operates as an isolation chamber. When we're convinced that one romantic partner should meet all our needs, we stop building extended networks of care. We pull away from friends and chosen family, told that's what 'growing up' looks like. We become too lonely to organize, too busy maintaining the performance to build the collective structures that would actually sustain us. Monogamy culture serves capitalism by keeping us separated, manageable, and desperate for connection we're told can only come from one source.

So we're practicing something different.

Erotic autonomy isn't a consolation prize for being single. It's foundational work. Your body is your primary relationship, and your sovereignty starts in your own skin. Self-sourced pleasure is where you learn to give yourself what you want without shame or justification.

When you can give yourself pleasure without requiring external validation, you become harder to control. Capitalism needs you desperate for approval, convinced that satisfaction comes from consuming the right products or performing the right relationships. But a body that knows its own pleasure? That's dangerous. That's a body that can say no to systems designed to extract your energy and yes to what actually serves your liberation.

Masturbation, in this context, is both practice and praxis. It's where you find out what you want when nobody else's expectations are in the room. It's where you learn that desire doesn't require permission and pleasure doesn't need to be earned. Every time you touch yourself with intention—not as release valve but as relationship—you're training your nervous system to trust your own authority.

This is Oshun's work. Sweetness that starts in your own body. Warrior energy that fights the constructs blocking our access to joy. Erotic autonomy as the foundation for every other kind of freedom.

Why a group ritual?

The benefit of taking transformative steps in community with others cannot be overstated. Practicing erotic autonomy together creates an energetic field that amplifies individual work—your sovereignty practice becomes stronger when witnessed and held by others doing the same work.

The myth of individualism is killing us, figuratively and literally. A community of people reclaiming self-sourced pleasure as resistance is a direct threat to systems that need us isolated and desperate. When we gather to practice autonomy together, we're not just healing ourselves—we're building the collective capacity to imagine and create different structures of care and connection.

What happens in the Ritual?

Rituals do not run strictly in "mundane time", but here is the basic structure:

• Political Grounding—the framework of how monogamy culture isolates us, why the system needs us lonely, what extended kinship networks offer that the nuclear family can't

• Spiritual Grounding

• Ancestor Invocation

• Blessing

• Introductions

• Break

• Energy Build through breath, facilitated and then self-directed self-touch

• Focused Energy Beam

• Vision Journey

Cameras may be on for the first four parts of the ritual, and will then be shut off after Introductions.

Investment

The Ache Di:

• Garden Tier: $35

• Meadow Tier: $55 (honoring Oshun's sacred number)

• Savanna Tier: $75